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Why Aren’t Things Going My Way?

Are you a planner? Do you plan how your day will go? Do you have your week, month or life already loosely planned? I used to be like that and I still am somewhat. I would plan how my life was going to go; how I wanted it to go and if it did not turn out the way that I had planned I would get so frustrated!

In the past few months, I have been reading the book of Hosea. Hosea is a beautiful and heart-breaking love story of a man (Hosea) and his wife (Gomer), but also of God and His people. In Hosea, the nation of Israel has turned away from God. Israel is disrespecting God and worshiping other gods, false gods. Israel is also making friends with other countries that are a bad influence on them. God tells Hosea to tell Israel that these things are bad for them and to return to a loving relationship with God. Hosea tells them, but Israel doesn’t listen. Israel is searching everywhere for love, acceptance and provision; but they are not turning to God for these things.

One of my favorite passages in the Bible starts in Hosea 2, where God says what He is going to do since Israel is looking everywhere except to God for what they want and need:

“For this reason I will fence her in with thorn bushes. I will block her path with a wall to make her lose her way.” –Hosea 2:6

I think that these verses are some of the most beautiful verses in the whole Bible. God is not being mean to Israel. He is not trying to take away their freedom. God loves Israel so much, that He is trying to protect them from their own bad choices.

When I was graduating from high school, I pretty much did what Israel did; I sorta told God to ‘get lost’. I felt like He was trying to ruin all my fun. I got into some bad stuff – sex, drinking, stuff like that, but that wasn’t all – I also got involved in studying witchcraft. I felt God trying to call me back, but I was following my own plans. In order to complete these “studies”, there was a very scary and dangerous process I was supposed to follow. Every time I tried to follow through with the final process, I couldn’t. I would be interrupted or just too scared to complete it and I was frustrated. God was fencing me in with thorn bushes. He was blocking my path with a wall to keep me safe from the foolish and dangerous path I was trying to walk.

When I finally gave up my plans in favor of God’s plans for my life, things got so much better! I just encourage you when you feel like things just aren’t going your way, step aside to someplace quiet and begin to pray and ask God to show you His path and plan for your life. He has one just for you and He will show it to you if you only ask.

“But then I will win her back once again. I will lead her into the desert and speak tenderly to her there. I will return her vineyards to her and transform the Valley of Trouble into a gateway of hope.” –Hosea 2:14-15


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  1. Posted by on June 16, 2011 at 06:27

    This has honestly made me change my outlook on everything going on, I know now what I need to do. Thank you for this, I couldnt help but smile at the end.(:

  2. Posted by on May 6, 2011 at 14:39

    Thanks Nicole! 🙂 I will keep you and your project in my prayers.
    Thank you very much, Jenn. I shall keep you in my prayers as well! It is an incredibly difficult road. Thank you for reminding me of that. I needed that encouragement. Thanks for that link. I also found another one. It’s called settingcaptivesfree.com which has Biblestudy things for many things people struggle with, including over-eating. 🙂

  3. Posted by on May 5, 2011 at 12:09

    Bethany – I’m going to be keeping you in my prayers. I am also recovering from pornography addiction and was heavily involved in Wicca for awhile. It is a difficult road, but I want you to remember that though you may have become “sick and disgusted” with yourself, that was never how God saw you. God was loving you intensely even when you were far away from Him and He loves you intensely now. That is how He is – unchanging. I’m SO proud of you for taking the steps to turn back to God! Now keep walking in obedience to Him and let Him heal your heart.

    This is an awesome resource for girls struggling with pornography and sexual addiction: http://dirtygirlsministries.com/

  4. Posted by on May 3, 2011 at 19:30

    Ah, Nicole, I cannot even express how thrilled I am that I heard about you today. I really connect to everything you shared in this message. I went through quite a period of time where I said no to God and yes to sin… like self-harm, rage, masturbation, overeating, pornography, and drinking underage. On top of that I became deeply involved in Buddhism and then Wicca. Only through many prayers and encouragement from Believers, and feeling so sick and disgusted with myself have I finally turned back to God. I’m still a recovering “addict” in many ways. And have recently finished reading Hosea myself. I think what you are doing is incredible. I respect and admire you a lot. Keep up the good work. You have a wonderful testimony! Love from your sister in Christ. <3 🙂

    • Posted by Nicole on May 3, 2011 at 23:34

      I’m so happy you shared that Bethany because that takes guts. You’re on the right road now, and God will continually show you where… I’m so proud of you!

  5. Posted by on April 18, 2011 at 12:55

    Such perfect timing. As always, thanks for the inspiration.

  6. Posted by on April 17, 2011 at 13:16

    This reminds me of a novel i just read. It was called Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers. it’s basically a fictional story about the story of Hosea and Gomer. it was very encouraging and uplifting

  7. Posted by on April 17, 2011 at 11:47

    I’m so glad that all of you enjoyed this!

    Breanna – God knew that this was encouragement you needed. That is how much he loves you that He put this on my heart to write because you, His daughter, neede to hear it 🙂

    Audrey – So excited to hear that God is stirring the desire for this beautiful book in your heart! As you read, I encourage you to pray for understanding and clarity. Ask the Lord to open your heart to a full understanding of His heart for His people and specifically for you 🙂

  8. Posted by on April 16, 2011 at 16:42

    Wow, I feel like God’s really put this on my heart. I’m going to start reading Hosea now! 🙂

  9. Posted by on April 16, 2011 at 12:37

    Very, very inspirational.

  10. Posted by on April 16, 2011 at 12:36

    reading this gave me hope 🙂

  11. Posted by on April 16, 2011 at 12:36

    This is such good advice! Thank you so much for this.

  12. Posted by on April 16, 2011 at 09:43

    Very inspirational

  13. Posted by on April 16, 2011 at 06:15

    I really needed this today. Thanks [: