Before I delve into this post, I want to define what I’ll be referring to as a “Christian mom.”
I’m sure there are moms who are Christian and who enter their little girls in pageants. However, when I refer to “Christian moms,” I mean those women who hold Christ in their hearts, who live the Gospel and who strive to glorify and please God. They’re not just born Christan, or say they’re Christian–they live Christian in everything they say and do.
A Christian mom is the type of mother who is traditional in her ways and strives to maintain Christian values in her family. She understands what is expected of her as a child of God, a woman, a mother and, if applicable, a wife. It is this Christian mom that I believe would never enter her little daughter in pageants or even highly toxic dance competitions, as demonstrated in the show Dance Moms.
Why? Because child pageants go against everything a Christian mom believes in, and here’s how:
- Toddlers & Tiaras and Dance Moms both demonstrate environments that sexualize children. These little girls are dressed as grown-up women with tons of makeup and giant hairdos. They’re trained to parade around in provocative outfits and in a suggestive manner, wiggling and shaking and strutting around. They’re also often prompted to sing and dance to suggestive songs.
A Christian mom understands that Christ expects modesty in all women and that it is outrageous to sexualize a child for any reason. Not only is a woman supposed to maintain modesty herself, but a mother is responsible for instilling modesty in her daughter from a very young age. A Christian mom also protects her child’s purity and innocence.
- Pageants send such a bad message about inner versus outer beauty, and at a very young age. Basically, these little girls learn their worth dependent on their looks. If they look better than the other girls, then they believe they’re worth something; otherwise there’s something wrong with them. Their character is irrelevant. In fact, they’re usually brought up to be mean and spiteful, thus contaminating the heart, which God looks to rather than the face. Sure, it’s good to compete, but these competitions don’t bring the good out in these young girls. They bring out the worst.
A Christian mom focuses on developing her child’s heart. She understands that God looks to the heart, not the physical appearance.
- Child pageants put young girls in danger. We’ve all heard the story about JonBenét Ramsey. There are scary people in the world, including predators who are obsessed with young girls. A child in this situation is exposed and put on display for any crazy man out there looking to check out young girls.
A Christian mother recognizes her child is God’s and that she has been called to take care of His gift. As a result, a Christian mother wouldn’t put God’s child at risk.
- Moms of pageant children take these events very seriously. This is evident in Toddlers & Tiaras and Dance Moms. When can a child be a child if she’s busy practicing and performing and competing? A childhood is lost in this environment. Instead of creating childhood friendships and playing innocent games, these little girls create negative relationships with competitors and miss out on the joys of being a fun-loving, innocent child.
A Christian mom understands the significance of a childhood. She allows her child to grow according to her age and she welcomes and nurtures their innocence.
Often, the pageants are an outlet for the mothers to fulfill their own selfish desires. Christian moms are not selfish. They put their children first.
There are so many reasons a Christian mother would never enter her child in a pageant. The bottom line is that the nature of a child pageant is so far from what God asks of parents. I also find child pageants to be so offensive because they strip children of their childhood, innocence and purity.
Ladies, do you think that Christian moms would enter their children into pageants?