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Why Do We Date Like We’re Playing Candy Land?


When I was really little, I was obsessed with playing Candy Land. However, looking back, I realize that I wasn’t actually playing to win. I loved to play because I was captivated by the look of the cards. Every turn I was just hoping to get one of the character cards—you know, Lord Licorice, Queen Frostine, all of the fan favorites!

To be honest, I didn’t even care if picking one of those cards meant that I had to move backward; it still felt like I was winning because those cards were better to look at, and since I was moving a further distance, it seemed like I was at least going somewhere…even when it was in the wrong direction.

It sounds strange, but I feel like that’s how a lot of us are with dating. A lot of us know what the Bible says about dating, but sometimes we believe the lie that it’s just too boring in the day-to-day. We would rather jump from cute guy to cute guy. Because honestly, the cute ones are just better to look at, the world tells us dating around will make our life more exciting, and even if we are moving in the wrong direction, at least we are going somewhere and “experiencing” life, right?!

The funniest part about little me playing Candy Land was that I still had the audacity to get mad when I didn’t win. It was foolish of me to think that I could still win AND bounce around from character to character. I wanted it both ways! But isn’t that what a lot of us do today? We say we want a guy who will treat us like a queen, encourage us in our faith, gladly wait on the physical stuff and be super hot at the same time…but we choose to date the guy who treats us poorly, who says it’s fine that we’re Christian but church “isn’t really for him,” and who pushes us on the physical stuff, but hey—at least he’s good-looking, right?!

Listen, I’m not writing all of this to tell you not to date. I get it—dating a cute boy is an absolute possibility for you right now. But here is what I DO want to tell you.

I want you to be able to get through the game of “Candy Land” in the smoothest and most pain-free way you can! The world is going to tempt you with pretty objects all day, every day, but it’s our role as believers to have discernment to know which path will draw us closer to the Lord. Ultimately, it comes down to what you believe. Do you TRULY believe that Jesus is enough? That you are already whole in Him, and because of that, you don’t need a boyfriend? Because here’s the thing—when we truly believe this, it changes everything. It changes the thoughts we have, the paths we take, the decisions we make and, let’s be real, the boys we date. When we understand who God is in our lives, that He is beyond more than enough, we no longer care about getting those cool Candy Land cards. We want exactly what the Lord wants for us, whether that be a seemingly boring color card or a character card. When Jesus is our Savior, it’s like we’ve handed our “board” (life) of Candy Land over to Him. But when He is Our Lord, we’re trusting Him with not only the board, but with each hand that we will play and each card that we will pick up, and believing that He will use each turn for our good. The Bible tells us that, when we allow Him to, God is going to write a better story with our lives than we could ever imagine.



Ladies, are you trusting that He is writing that perfect love story for you right now?


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  1. Nandag1997

    Posted by Nandag1997 on July 20, 2015 at 11:43

    I think this is one of the best articles relating to dating that I have found on this site. I have been a Christ follower for a while, and had to experience a lot of darkness before He even started blessing me with amazing friendships. I had to be alone so that I could trust Him alone and rely on Him, and then and only then did He bless me with the friends I have now. And when it comes to guys, of course having a crush or liking someone is okay and fun, but I remember to not completely give my heart away, and that God will give me someone when He feels it is right and necessary for me. I don’t need a boyfriend, but I anticipate the day I meet the person I will marry, even if I don’t know it yet. Marriage is something extremely important to me and I know that it is something I want for my future, and I do not want to rush this precious thing that God will give me 🙂

    • Nandag1997

      Posted by Nandag1997 on July 20, 2015 at 11:45

      and knowing that I am centered in Christ and that directs my decisions makes it even more amazing and empowering to think that God will place someone in my life who is the exact same. When we find each other, we will both love God and trust Him so much that God will make a way and give us an amazing, God-centered relationship 🙂

  2. Lee Mattson

    Posted by Lee Mattson on June 24, 2015 at 07:34

    I love this. It’s so true! I feel like it requires a lot of faith to know that one day I can find someone that God wants me to be with, but it’s truly worth it!

  3. shrimpy2000

    Posted by shrimpy2000 on May 22, 2015 at 21:46

    Brilliant insight and creativity! Thanks a bunch for sharing!

  4. crazy4christ

    Posted by crazy4christ on May 22, 2015 at 12:48

    l truly love what you are saying, I too feel dating is serious and we must first find ourselves in Him, because only he completes us.

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by Beloved_Woman on May 13, 2015 at 11:59

    Love it! And so true!