A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. (Proverbs 14:30)
I don’t know what you’re thinking or feeling when you read this Bible verse, but I can tell you I definitely get quite the visual from it! Rotting bones?! This sounds awful! Another version describes jealousy like “cancer to the bones.” Clearly, His Word makes it pretty evident that jealousy leads to nothing healthy or good. And yet, as humans we constantly find ourselves in situations where we are overcome by jealousy. And let me tell you, there’s nothing pretty about jealousy.
Today, with all the social media around us, it’s so hard not to get caught in the comparison trap. It’s easy to start mindlessly looking through Instagram and wishing you had that girl’s body or were vacationing at that beach or fill in the blank. The list could go on forever. There’s a reason why Roosevelt’s quote “comparison is the thief of all joy” is so well known. Why? Because it’s completely true. No one ever finds joy while comparing themselves to others. There’s no way to compare yourself to another without finding yourself in sin. You are either a) trapped in pride as you think of yourself as better than others or b) trapped in jealousy as you feel inferior and wish for more than what you already have. Comparison is a lose-lose situation.
I say all of this because I have been there. I have been the girl comparing myself to others. I have looked at others’ lives with envy, wishing I had what they had. I’ve told myself that I deserve what they have more than they do. I’ve had those moments when my mind is embodying the exact definition of jealousy.
Jealousy: to have resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another’s success or advantage itself.
But what if, together, we change this? What if comparison and jealousy no longer become this excuse for girls? What if we eliminate it from our vocabulary altogether? It’s amazing what can happen in our friendships when we don’t let jealousy creep in. There’s something beautifully freeing when comparison is not part of the equation. We no longer feel this urge to compete with one another, but rather have the longing for others’ success and joy. Philippians 2:3 begins to come to life…
Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.
The body of Christ was never meant to be consumed by jealousy. The body of Christ thrives when we stop comparing. It strengthens as we encourage and support one another. It grows as we see the beauty of our role and its importance. I truly believe we can change something in the atmosphere if we cheer each other on rather than tear each other down with our jealous hearts. Let’s be a group of girls who choose to be overcome by love rather than jealousy!
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