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    Why Do We Let Jealousy Rule Our Worlds?

    A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. (Proverbs 14:30)

     

    I don’t know what you’re thinking or feeling when you read this Bible verse, but I can tell you I definitely get quite the visual from it! Rotting bones?! This sounds awful! Another version describes jealousy like “cancer to the bones.” Clearly, His Word makes it pretty evident that jealousy leads to nothing healthy or good. And yet, as humans we constantly find ourselves in situations where we are overcome by jealousy. And let me tell you, there’s nothing pretty about jealousy.

    Today, with all the social media around us, it’s so hard not to get caught in the comparison trap. It’s easy to start mindlessly looking through Instagram and wishing you had that girl’s body or were vacationing at that beach or fill in the blank. The list could go on forever. There’s a reason why Roosevelt’s quote “comparison is the thief of all joy” is so well known. Why? Because it’s completely true. No one ever finds joy while comparing themselves to others. There’s no way to compare yourself to another without finding yourself in sin. You are either a) trapped in pride as you think of yourself as better than others or b) trapped in jealousy as you feel inferior and wish for more than what you already have. Comparison is a lose-lose situation.

    I say all of this because I have been there. I have been the girl comparing myself to others. I have looked at others’ lives with envy, wishing I had what they had. I’ve told myself that I deserve what they have more than they do. I’ve had those moments when my mind is embodying the exact definition of jealousy.

    Jealousy: to have resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another’s success or advantage itself.

    But what if, together, we change this? What if comparison and jealousy no longer become this excuse for girls? What if we eliminate it from our vocabulary altogether? It’s amazing what can happen in our friendships when we don’t let jealousy creep in. There’s something beautifully freeing when comparison is not part of the equation. We no longer feel this urge to compete with one another, but rather have the longing for others’ success and joy. Philippians 2:3 begins to come to life…

     

    Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.

     

    The body of Christ was never meant to be consumed by jealousy. The body of Christ thrives when we stop comparing. It strengthens as we encourage and support one another. It grows as we see the beauty of our role and its importance. I truly believe we can change something in the atmosphere if we cheer each other on rather than tear each other down with our jealous hearts. Let’s be a group of girls who choose to be overcome by love rather than jealousy!

     

    Want to get to know the authors, the Kaleidoscope girls (Cammie and Natalie), a bit more? Check them out at their website and on social media!

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    Two best friends with big dreams and even bigger hearts watched as their worlds collided to form their band Kaleidoscope. Influenced by artists such as Britt Nicole and Demi Lovato, this is a fun and fresh pop duo that offers an exciting and current sound to Christian music. Kaleidoscope’s Natalie Brown and Cammie Avers met in college and knew the Lord had joined their paths for bigger things than they could even imagine. Sharing the same dreams and passions for ministry, music, and teen girls, the two decided to join forces to make an even bigger impact on the world together. Ultimately, Kaleidoscope desires to see hearts and lives changed through their music. These women represent more than just songs, but truly portray the idea that even the ordinary can be used in extraordinary ways!

    4 COMMENTS

    1. Okay, so if we are not supposed to jealous, why am I nearly set up?! All my friends always have lead roles in drama, people who like them, etc. I have NEVER had a lead role, and I am older than all of them. There is a reason I constantly feel like God loves some people more than others… Deep down inside I know its not true, but I wish i could see why.

      • I completely understand where you are coming from! I was in musical theater as well growing up so I know EXACTLY how you are feeling! I struggled with jealousy as I watched friends get parts that I wanted or watched as the stars seemed to just align for them ALWAYS haha! It took me a few years, but I eventually understood the importance of celebrating my friends rather than tearing them down in my mind. Just because we don’t say something out loud, doesn’t make what we think any better!
        The best way for me to cope with situations like this is focusing my heart and thoughts on the truth. The TRUTH is that the Lord loves you and has the best plan in store for you. You not getting a certain role or not having that cute guy like you isn’t some punishment from God, but rather sometimes His protection. When we truly believe He has a perfect plan for us it allows us to rest in the plan that is playing out.
        I know a lot of this is easier said than done, but just know that everything will work together for your good! One of my favorite songs says “If I have You, I have everything. But without You, I have nothing.” When we truly begin to believe this, everything changes. It no longer matters what part we get or what boy does or doesn’t like us because we realize we have already been given MORE than enough. God loves YOU and has the perfect plan for you. He is building you up for what is to come! Keep pursuing Him and proclaiming truths over your life! Praying for you Kelly!

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