Why it’s Important to Be YOU No Matter What!

    When I was in junior high and high school, I had a hard time just being myself. I’m sort of what people might call a “nerd”. I’m smart — which wasn’t cool at all when I was young. I was loud (I tell things like they are), emotional and super clumsy. I liked video games and sci-fi and I would rather read books than watch movies. The biggest “nerd” thing of all was that I loved Shakespeare! My aunt bought me my first book of Shakespeare’s plays when I was 10 years old. I don’t have to tell you — I felt like no one understood me and I had very few friends.

    I struggled with being myself – who God made me to be – for a long time which continued for years after I graduated from high school. I used to wonder why I didn’t fit in and why I was the way I was. I learned, though, that God made me special. God made me this way with special gifts and talents for His purpose.

    The struggle with being “you” doesn’t end after high school. I still struggle with the way that God made me sometimes. I even compare myself to other people, wondering if I should be sweeter, quieter or more girly. Should I wear dresses more? Should I enjoy video games less?

    No — that’s God’s answer from Psalm 33:13-15:

    The Lord looks from heaven; He sees all the sons [and daughters] of men. From the place of His dwelling He looks on all the inhabitants of the earth; He fashions their hearts individually; He considers all their works.

    If you are:

    • Nerdy
    • Shy
    • Emotional
    • Girly
    • Athletic
    • Clumsy

    …the list goes on.

    Whatever your ‘label’ may be, God made you that way on purpose for a purpose. Don’t try to run or hide from who you’re “individually fashioned” to be. Celebrate your individuality!

    Romans 12:6-8 – In His grace, God has given us different gifts for doing certain things well.

    If God has given you the ability to prophesy, speak out with as much faith as God has given you. If your gift is serving others, serve them well. If you’re a teacher, teach well. If your gift is to encourage others, be encouraging. If your gift is to be giving, give generously. If God has given you leadership ability, take the responsibility seriously. And if you have a gift for showing kindness to others, do it gladly. Whatever your gift(s) may be, use them well.

    How did God fashion your heart? What makes you an individual?


    Jenn Arman
    Jenn Arman is a youth pastor, freelance writer and blogger. She was born in San Diego, California and raised 2 hours north east in the Inland Empire where she lives with her husband David and their cats. Jenn desires to bring glory to God and a healthy dose of reality to Christians through both writing and preaching. Visit for more on her work. You can also connect with her on and


    1. A quote That I Love-
      God created all people to be originals, but we continue to become copies of others. We try so hard to fit in, we never stand out…

      I really struggle with Being myself I Guess I care so Much what people Thing about me I have a Really Loud Personality So many People Look down on me Because when I talk to Loud and I’m Talkative They look down on me and Make faces and It Bothers me Because I seem to not be myself But at School I’m very shy people like To see more of me because sometimes I like to be alone From Everything,I can seem to be myself because I want everyone to Love me,I realize That Everyone isn’t Always going to Love you for who you are,I have a Weird Personality I guess I love to be Different,I get Ashamed for who I am Because I love different types of Music and Interest ( I love Asian Music) :)But I rather some one to hate me for who i am than someone to love me for who I am not,But I really want to stand out and to Be The Person God wants to me Be. 🙂

    2. Sometimes I have trouble finding myself, I look at other girls nd think “why are they so happy nd out there all the time?” I long to be fearless nd not really care what others think, but other than that I like the way God made me nd i’m so sure that he has plans for me! 🙂

    3. I may not be in high school and i really dont care what people think of me cause this is me, I love the Lord, and i speak me mind nicely, But lately i’ve been having trouble with who am I? and right when i’m i about to give up, lose hope, I decide to learn more about God and come to this website, and i wanted to see what the Lord wants me to know, and the first thing i see is this so i decide to read this, and now i understand a little more, Just wait and see what God has planned for me, now that i think about this i remeber the artical i read on here about the little girl that wanted to help kids in africa with drinking water…. Thank You so much this website has help me thru many of my problems…. God always answers i even if its wait….

    4. We are a lot alike Jen,accept for the video games. I play them every once in a while,but not very often. I am shy, and I am a total nerd. I have the glasses to prove that,lol. Most of all, I am shy and quiet. I hardly say a word to anyone,except my loved ones. I like being quiet,but my loved ones don’t like it.

      • I’m the same way, Paris! unless i know someone really well, i hardly talk. i prefer not talking and simply listening and being observant, but sometimes i wish i was more open and able to meet new people/make friends easier

    5. Hey Nicole, have you ever thought of putting up a forum for us girls? That way we could chat about our struggles and acomplishments in Christ? I think it would AWESOME if you added a forum! 🙂 Just an idea for the future.

    6. I really like this artical!! thanks for writing it, im 12 years old (almost 13 NEXT MONTH!!!!)and homeschooled, and i LOVE writing and poetry, it always made me feel better to read or write, i am a REALLY girly girl, but i also like sports, such as, football, basketball,gymnastics, and cheer. I might even write some articals and send them to this blog!! But im afraid no one will be much interested.should i do it?

    7. I’m somewhat of a nerd too… I really like Star Wars, and I love reading sci-fi. I’m a little girly, too, because whenever someone calls me beautiful, I giggle like crazy. I’m a tomboy, I go camping with my family and don’t care if I get a bug in my hair or I break a nail(even though it is annoying!). I am a thinker, I think about the most random things, and I think deeply of Jesus and what he did for me. Most of all, I am a Christ-follower, bound to follow Christ’s footsteps wherever I go. I go where he takes me. He shows me where to go, and I go. I listen to his every word. I love Jesus, and that’s just who I am. All of me.

    8. Thank you so much for writing this! I feel just like you–I am a huge Star Wars fan, I am too well known for my loud mouth and opinion. My Asperger’s syndrome makes me feel small and unwanted sometimes. Thank you for the reminder that God “fashioned” me so that I can be beautiful and shine even through my flaws.

      • Morgan – Asperger’s syndrome is nothing to be ashamed of. You are definitely NOT unwanted and as I write this I feel the Lord saying to me that you are NOT small, in fact He has LARGE plans for you. Don’t be ashamed, God is preparing you for GREAT things!

    9. Thank you for writing this article! It’s a very important one! I constantly feel like no one really likes me. (like they just pretend to.) The vibe they give off… No one really understands me, not even my family sometimes. I would rather learn than go outside and play! That sounds so dorky! But, I just love to gain knowledge. I love researching info on UFO’s, fallen angels and government conspiricies, because they all are in the Bible too. Like what we call aliens, I believe are really fallen angels. They’re working for satan to get people away from God. Also, God actually recreated the Earth many, many times, that’s why the mountains are said to be millions of years old. We aren’t the first civilization God created. 🙂 Nothing that I research controverses with the Bible…it actually all ties in together! But, no one seems to care at all. They probably think I’m crazy, like the millions of people who remember being abducted. Well anyway, I just think that Christians should be more open minded to these things. By the way, there are many other planets with life on it, but I don’t think we can see them. I think each planet has its own “frequency”…like radio stations…88.3 can’t play on 92.5. It only “proves” God exists even more. The two sites I sent are very interesting and based on the Bible! 😀 Jesus loves you! Sorry, for getting so off topic! It’s just sooo hard to keep what you’ve learned to yourself! lol! 😀

    10. I find myself constantly worrying what people will think about me. I guess it took me a while to realize because its not that i care if im “cool”, I just want people to like me. I have a hard time being outgoing when meeting new people (something im working on) so i worry people will think im strange or im not really sure what else… I think im always myself, but i just feel like I could improve myself i guess. thanks for the post! its great! really helpful. ill figure this all out eventually

    11. Sometimes, its so hard to tell when your trying to be somebody else, because you think that you are being yourself, by changing things up a little bit. At least, that is how it is for me sometimes! I always try to be myself, and whoever likes me for me is a keeper! 🙂

    12. i used tob struggle to be myself by keeping up with my friends and i did not enjoy my life. now am born again and jesus is my best friend who loves me the way i am. and i have more friends than before when i was trying to fit in…

    13. I’m a total ‘nerd’! But I love being a ‘nerd’! All my friends are really nice! And I think I have more guy friends than girl friends. However, I am praying to God for that special someone to come along… 🙂

      • im very very shy. Even when i go to church im all quiet and the same way as i go to school. now idnt even know wat to do anymore. at first when i was ten, i used to dance to worldly music. but now that im a christian ive really changed but my family dnt like the new me. wat should i do 2 get over my shyness and quietness nicole.?

    14. I am loud, energetic, enthusiathic, overly friendly, sentimental, and, as a joke from one of my friends, the only “un-graceful Asian” she’s ever seen. 😀 One of my friends remarked that I should really try not talking a lot, and so does my mom, and I admit that I can get a little TOO loud sometimes, so I try to tone it down a bit. But other than that, I am satisfied with myself, and I’m not ashamed to show it. *fist pump* Thank you, God!

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