Sometimes in life, we seek out the approval of others, we want to be validated by our loved ones and we can at times lose sight of God’s acceptance of us. God’s approval should be our highest concern and honoring Him is what we should aim for. Of course, it’s human nature to sometimes forget, and we do at times want to be loved, but we need to remember we are not of this world and the goal isn’t to be liked by everyone, but to do God’s will in love.
Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. (1 John 2:15)
The space of love in our hearts is shaped perfectly for the love of Jesus and the spirit of the living God, and no other person or thing can fill that void. You can search high and low on the earth for that ferocious love of the Lord Almighty, but it will never satisfy. Only the free gift of salvation in Jesus Christ is what will give us peace, total healing, joy and life.
We also need to remember that Christ was at one time unrecognized, mocked, persecuted and rejected, and was unseen at one point. He was essentially anonymous for over 30 years, and his ministry as the unveiled Messiah was for three years until His death on Calvary and the resurrection, proving He was the Son of God. Jesus even had to wait for His season and time for promotion and was betrayed by even those who professed that they loved him. How do you handle rejection or when people don’t applaud your efforts?
Therefore Jesus told them, “My time is not yet here; for you any time will do.” (John 7:6)
The stone the builders rejected has become the cornerstone; the Lord has done this, and it is marvelous in our eyes. (Psalm 118: 22-23)
We want our boyfriend’s approval, our parents’ validation, to be liked by people and have followers on social media, but what do we do when man disappoints us? We realize over and over again that only Christ satisfies. It is only then, when we go through rejection, that we acknowledge that the approval of Christ is really all we need.
It’s not easy, but even Jesus said that His own people didn’t see who He was. Jesus, the Son of Man, was not accepted and was ridiculed by even the so-called “religious” people of the day and the elite. Even the King of Kings humbled himself to die on the cross, demonstrating the power of being a servant.
“Truly I tell you,” he continued, “no prophet is accepted in his hometown.” (Luke 4:24)
And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death—even death on a cross! (Philippians 2:8)
Who are we to challenge God when things don’t go our way? Who are we to say that we won’t follow Him unless we get what we pray for? Who are we to question our faith when our parents or our crush doesn’t see us the way God sees us?
We must not give people such a heavy responsibility to approve of us because they could never love like God the Father. His love is so deep, so rich, incomparable and overwhelming. Read the lyrics from Bethel music singer Amanda Cook’s song “Pieces”—it’s so true about God’s love:
Your love’s not fractured
It’s not a troubled mind
It isn’t anxious
It’s not the restless kind
Your love’s not passive
It’s never disengaged
It’s always present
It hangs on every word we say
Love keeps its promises
It keep its word
It honors what’s sacred
‘Cause its vows are good
Your love’s not broken
It’s not insecure
Your love’s not selfish
Your love is pure
Cuz’ You don’t give Your heart in pieces
You don’t hide Yourself to tease us….
Wow, such powerful words! I encourage you to listen to this song on iTunes and/or here on YouTube when you feel like you don’t belong or need to be filled up with God’s Holy Spirit and be in His presence.
You may still be wondering why God can’t allow you to fit in or be liked by the masses. When you feel weary or defeated, PI readers, remember this: God’s Kingdom is always opposite of this world, and we don’t fit in because we are aliens and strangers of the world like the Bible says. As Christ followers, we are leaders, carriers of this Gospel message of good news and light bearers; we are the children of God to lead and point people to God through the Son. What a high honor! (Read the Beatitudes when you need to be reminded of who you are and who you belong to.)
We are here for only a moment, visitors and strangers in the land as our ancestors were before us. Our days on earth are like a passing shadow, gone so soon without a trace. (1 Chronicles 29:15)
PI Girls, there is no love like the everlasting, unending love of our Lord. Let us pray and try to not attain validation from fallen man who really doesn’t even realize what they do. Let our treasure, our worth, our confidence be in our identity in Christ as daughters of the King. Let us be unshakable and unwavering in a culture that demands our attention and wants us to “want” their approval. Let us seek the eyes of the audience of one. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus.