We recently came across an article that showed the divorce rates of various countries around the world. What we found most shocking about the data was that a growing number of married couples are throwing in the towel and calling it quits. For example, in Qatar, 60% of couples split within five years of marriage. In New York City, the average is 12.2 years. Twelve years! That’s a pretty far cry from an eternity, right?
So what gives here and should we as Christians even be concerned? Absolutely! The Bible says, in many different ways, that marriage was constructed to last forever.
“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’ ? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore, what God has joined together, let man not separate.” – Matthew 19:4-6
“Therefore, what God has joined together, let man not separate.” THAT right there is everything. God spells out for us, in no few words, what marriage is supposed to be and how long it’s supposed to last. Now, we know there are certain circumstances that warrant a divorce (e.g. abusive relationships, sexual immorality etc). However, generally speaking, once you’ve found your other half and you two decide to come together as one, that’s it (barring extenuating circumstances). The biggest problem with marriages today is that some people enter into them prematurely and don’t take the time to really get to know their partner. Or, they decide to throw in the towel as soon as things get rough. And it doesn’t help that our TV screens are flooded with stories of celebrities getting married and divorced 4 or 5 different times. After a while, it starts to become the norm. But it shouldn’t be. The Bible provides us with a recipe for maintaining a healthy relationship, but it’s up to each of us to follow the instructions.
“Be completely humble and gentle; Be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace.”- Ephesians 4:2-3
God created and released into this world a soul mate for you. And yes, it may take time to find that person, but it’s totally worth the wait. When you rush into marriage prematurely (has nothing to do with age), and settle down with the first person that comes your way, the chances of the marriage ending in divorce are increased. And divorce usually leads to a lot of heartache and unnecessary drama. Marriage is such a beautiful thing and it should be treated as something sacred. That is why we encourage you all to take your time with love. Your story deserves a happy ending and God will give it to you. Just be patient and have faith in Him.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9-1