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Why Waiting to Date Is Worth It, by PI Girl Jessinia

In August of 2011, when I was just starting my junior year of high school, I wrote a post for Project Inspired about my choice to wait to date until after high school. Now, I’m a graduating senior. I’ve remained single throughout high school and couldn’t recommend it more!

Here’s the thing, girls: During the time I’ve been single, I’ve grown so close to God. He’s my rock.

It hasn’t been all happy times. High school’s hard. Relationships are all around; many of my friends are dating people. I’ve felt alone. I’ve felt stranded by God. I’ve questioned His plan.

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well (Matthew 6:33).

Be patient. If it’s the Lord’s will, He will provide a boyfriend and a husband for you in time.

Easier said than done, right?

As girls and women, we have a desire to be loved, to be pursued, to be wanted. While guys may fill that desire on a pure physical or emotional level, they will never fulfill our spiritual desires. Jesus can fully satisfy all of our desires.

We may be tempted by these desires and idolize boys. But we have hope in the One Lord God. He will never fail us, ever.

My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever (Psalm 73:26).

I’ve been filled with endless joy in Jesus. The unimaginable amount of love Jesus has for us is indescribable. Since I’ve found this love, I want to share it with the whole world.

This fall I’m going to pursue my passion for mission work. I’ll be going on an 8-month mission trip to either the Dominican Republic or the South Pacific area. I’m giving everything to Him because I love Him.

If you are in a relationship, spend time in His word and in prayer. Make sure it’s what God wants for you.

Being single has been a huge blessing in my life. It may not have felt like it at times, but it is. I am going to continue to wait for the right man. A man who loves Jesus more than me. A man that will bring me closer to God through his actions. A man of God.

Written by PI Girl Jessinia

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45 Comments

  1. Juliebird4Christ

    Posted by Juliebird4Christ on September 22, 2014 at 16:15

    I didn’t want to wait, but after I read this I realized boys aren’t the only thing to make you happy! Jesus is!

  2. freedomlights

    Posted by freedomlights on January 26, 2014 at 22:05

    I love this article! I am seventeen and currently waiting to date, too. I’m not waiting until a specific age or period in my life, though––it’s more of that I’m waiting for the right guy. I’ve only had one serious crush, and he ended up liking me back; but due to circumstances with his parents, we never dated, and now, looking back, I’m glad we didn’t. We were really close and we’re still friends, but it wasn’t God’s plan for us to be romantically-involved. I rarely have serious crushes, as I’ve grown up with the “only date marriage-material” mindset, so when I truly like someone, it’s a big deal for me. I whole-heartedly believe in saving my sexual-fidelity for marriage. I will date men of God as He calls me to, and if time leads to it and I feel God approves of the relationship, I might even kiss him. But I want to save my sexual-fidelity for marriage. These are my personal convictions, but I just wanted to share. Above all, trust God and His plan, and know that even if something didn’t work out, He’s got it under control. (:

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by kblovesgod@gmail.com on November 25, 2013 at 09:46

    This is an awesome article! It is so cool to read about others who have the same convictions as I do. It helps to know that you are not alone and it can be done! I was a bridesmaid in a wedding for a very dear friend of mine, who only dated her husband and also saved her whole self for him and he did the same for her. It was such an honor to stand next to her, and so encouraging to know it can be done. Don’t give up, don’t give in to peer pressure and stand fast in the word of God and let Him hold your heart and guide your footsteps! <3

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by Faithgal7 on October 21, 2013 at 12:07

    I think it’s wonderful that there are other people out there waiting to date. I wait to date until I find the guy God has for me to marry. I’m also saving my first kiss until my wedding. These are personal convictions. My mom has encouraged is to wait to date but lots of people have different views on this. In fact most people I know think its weird but I’m living for God not them. I am greatly encouraged. By others similar beliefs. We need to change the way people view relationship. I want to thank you for this post it was encouraging.

  5. Publicpassion

    Posted by Publicpassion on October 6, 2013 at 18:18

    So helpful. Thank you.

  6. emilala

    Posted by emilala on October 6, 2013 at 12:35

    I totally understand! I am now a freshman in college and I didn’t date in high school either! It has honestly been one of my best decisions I have made. I have known for some time that God had called me to the mission field and because of this, I kept certain standards for guys. One of my decisions was to wait to kiss a guy till I knew he would be the one who I would marry. Many told me that there were no such guy but I can tell you they are wrong! Even though I am still single, I have met many Godly men who I am blessed to call my friends. Even though I am just friends with them, I know that there are some great guys out there and there will be for you too!!
    God Bless,
    Emily

  7. ayoo_erika

    Posted by ayoo_erika on August 18, 2013 at 21:50

    Needed to read this. Amazing!

  8. claire97

    Posted by claire97 on August 10, 2013 at 15:22

    I really, really needed to read that article. Thank you!

  9. Project Inspired

    Posted by awkjt on August 2, 2013 at 20:18

    I needed to hear this today. I was questioning the things that were said in here. It just made me feel so much better about everything. Thank you!

  10. PureLife

    Posted by PureLife on July 12, 2013 at 22:41

    This helped me a lot. Thank-you. There’s this boy that I really like, but he’s not aloud to date until he’s 18 because his parents are really strict in a certain type of Christianity. It seems that all the boys I like are undateable. Do you think this is a coincidence?

  11. Project Inspired

    Posted by prideofjames on June 25, 2013 at 10:30

    … having a boyfriend doesnt pull you away from God. just throwing it out there.

  12. Project Inspired

    Posted by Aurora-Violette on June 13, 2013 at 09:40

    Hello! \(^..^)/
    There is a boy I am interested in but I am not sure if I should date him. One thing that put me on edge was when he said f*** the bible when he KNEW I was a Christian. Also, he is agnostic. So should I or no?

  13. Montgomery15

    Posted by Montgomery15 on June 6, 2013 at 17:49

    Thank you! I needed this reminder!:)

  14. KitKat5693

    Posted by KitKat5693 on May 30, 2013 at 09:50

    This is awesome. In the verse, that is in a song that I know by Chris Tomlin. It goes, “Jesus, has overcome, and the grave is overwhelmed, victory is one, he is risen from the dead, and I will rise, when he calls my name, no more sorrow, no more pain, I will rise, on Eagles wings, before my God, fall on my knees, and Rise, I will Rise. You should look up this song. It is very inspiring. In fact, just look up Chris Tomlin songs in general!!

  15. Project Inspired

    Posted by ella.mckenzie.17 on May 22, 2013 at 20:20

    Hi! That made me happy, thanks 🙂

  16. mmaxim

    Posted by mmaxim on May 22, 2013 at 16:37

    I love this! I am going into my junior year, and have remained single, and plan on it until the right guy comes along! Thank you for the relatable encouragment!

  17. Entertaining angels

    Posted by Entertaining angels on May 21, 2013 at 08:48

    Oh man that’s Awesome:D I love this article. Jamie Grace done a video about dating and whether your single or not you need to watch this video:) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3865MHq6Z4

  18. GracieLB

    Posted by GracieLB on May 19, 2013 at 12:10

    I made a promise to God not too long ago that I will wait until after high school to court. A guy already expressed interest in me and his friend also expressed interest in me(I know….kinda sticky). But, I told them, “I don’t date.” That was before I made the promise to God and now I will confidently tell ANY guy(even the one I like), if he asks, that I am waiting. I am not searching….I am waiting. And while I’m waiting, I’m serving God and submitting myself to Him.

  19. TheCharlotteRC

    Posted by TheCharlotteRC on May 15, 2013 at 17:19

    Im in highschool and have told anyone who asks me if I date, that Im waiting for God’s match. It also gives me a chance to tell none Christians about God 🙂

  20. Project Inspired

    Posted by GabbyGirl2 on May 15, 2013 at 13:04

    Wow. This is like exactly how I feel. Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m about to be a junior in high school and hearing that there’s another person like me who has such a great success story when I feel so alone, is just what I needed. Thanks a million times over. Stay in God and enjoy your trip!! 🙂

  21. Project Inspired

    Posted by GodGirl101 on May 14, 2013 at 19:59

    Im trying really hard to stay out of relationships and stay focused on Jesus but it seams like every time a cute guy comes around, I loose my focus. Any advise? 🙂

  22. Milana16

    Posted by Milana16 on May 14, 2013 at 11:17

    Thank you so much! I’ve felt so alone because all of my friends are in a relationship. 🙁 But now I see that God has a great future planed out for me 🙂 Thanks again God Bless Jeremiah 29:11

    • jruff88

      Posted by jruff88 on May 15, 2013 at 07:06

      You’re welcome! I totally understand the feeling. That’s one of my favorite verses!

  23. Milana16

    Posted by Milana16 on May 14, 2013 at 11:12

    Thank you so much! I’ve felt so alone because all of my friends are in a relationship. 🙁 But now I see that God has a great future planed out for me 🙂 Thanks again God Bless

  24. sophiakaan

    Posted by sophiakaan on May 14, 2013 at 10:18

    So inspiring! 🙂

  25. GracieHoran

    Posted by GracieHoran on May 12, 2013 at 19:05

    I don’t see what the big deal is about dating. As long as you aren’t to touchy-feely, and don’t do bad things with your boyfriend then how is it bad? By dating in high school you learn what you like in boys and what you don’t like. You also create many memories such as first dates, and prom. You have someone there by your side to experience things with you. You can still be close to God and have a boyfriend in high school.

    • jruff88

      Posted by jruff88 on May 12, 2013 at 22:05

      Yes! Not dating in high school isn’t Gods plan for everyone. I’m just pointing out why not dating was right for me 🙂 If you’re in a relationship at any time just make sure it glorifies God. And also, I did go to prom both years. Once with my girl friends and once with a guy friend. It was so much fun!

      • GracieHoran

        Posted by GracieHoran on May 15, 2013 at 10:59

        thank you for responding 🙂 I understand what you’re trying to say.

    • so_shedances

      Posted by so_shedances on May 12, 2013 at 19:57

      Absolutely. I agree. It all comes down to what God’s will is for ours lives. To generalize and say that we ALL shouldn’t date in high school is not really acknowledging His plan for each individual’s life. It’s totally possible to be close to God and have a boyfriend in high school; however, that may not be what He wants for some girls.

  26. Deeblves3

    Posted by Deeblves3 on May 12, 2013 at 17:02

    Praise God! I made the same decision and I completely agree with you. Can’t wait when God will do such awesome things for your mission trip 🙂 Thank you for sharing with us!♥

  27. JessicaAnne

    Posted by JessicaAnne on May 12, 2013 at 15:14

    Awesome article! Thank you so much for writing it. 🙂 No one has ever been interested in a dating relationship with me, but I am okay with that. I know that God is saving me from heartache, and I am so thankful. <3 I am so glad to hear your thoughts! Thank you!! 🙂

    • jruff88

      Posted by jruff88 on May 12, 2013 at 22:01

      Thats so great you see your time as single as a blessing! God has great plans for you 🙂

  28. chocolaterobin

    Posted by chocolaterobin on May 12, 2013 at 13:53

    So inspiring! I also chose not to date at all throughtout highschool! (:

  29. jinglebells

    Posted by jinglebells on May 12, 2013 at 12:05

    I have asked that question many times “is waiting to date really worth it” Thanks so much for saying “it is” because right now, I have been contradicting myself. Because I made a promise to myself that I would “wait to date” and lately I have been thinking is it worth it! Thanks so much fro writing this 😀 <3

    • jruff88

      Posted by jruff88 on May 12, 2013 at 15:01

      Yes! It’s so good to wait. The devil is trying to put that doubt in your head. Reflecting on God’s word will help make your decisions certain 🙂

  30. ivettcajas

    Posted by ivettcajas on May 12, 2013 at 11:20

    Beautiful article I too am waiting one day if it’s God’s will to bring me a wonderful man who loves Jesus

  31. vanilla

    Posted by vanilla on May 12, 2013 at 10:45

    That is so cool! Any advice on how to love God more?

    • jruff88

      Posted by jruff88 on May 12, 2013 at 14:57

      Mark 12:30 “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength”. You can love God with all your heart by spending time with Him in prayer. You can love God with all your soul by making godly choices in your actions and words. Love Him with all your mind by learning more about God through His Word (like chocolaterobin said) and even more through this website or books. Love God with all your strength by having your resources, abilities and time available for God’s work.

    • chocolaterobin

      Posted by chocolaterobin on May 12, 2013 at 13:54

      You could pray to God to help you get closer to him. You can also start reading the bible. That really helps you build a relationship with God