Why Waiting To Get Married Isn’t A Bad Thing
Written by Cynthia Onyejiji | May 21, 2015
If you were to look in my closet right now, you know what you’d find? Yes. Tons and tons of shoes (don’t judge me). But once you made it past all of the heels and fancy flats, you’d find bridesmaid dress, after bridesmaid dress, after bridesmaid dress. Noticeably missing from the ensemble of pastel-colored bridesmaid dresses would be a white wedding dress.
Yep! I suffer from the always-a-bridesmaid-never-a-bride syndrome. And every year, since high school, I’ve watched my close friends find their happiness with some lucky man. I’ve watched them pledge their forevers to one another, start a family and put up their white picket fence. With each momentous occasion in their lives, I’ve been genuinely happy. Always. But deep down inside, I always wondered, when will it be my turn? When will I get to have my own cinematic and dramatic Cinderella moment?
For the longest time, I thought something was wrong with me. However, a recent study has revealed that the number of people getting married earlier on in life, has declined, drastically. These numbers have caused some people to run around frantically and look for ways to solve the problem. But is it really a bad thing that more and more people, Millennials especially, are waiting to get married? I don’t think so.
Back in the day, people used to get married for economic stability or to get out of their parents’ house or to show that they had officially entered adulthood. Our generation doesn’t have those same concerns. We’re doing pretty darn well if I do say so myself. And we’re a bit more focused on forming our own identities, starting a career and strengthen our relationship with God, before “jumping the broom”.
So what does this mean for all of us single ladies who have to watch our friends get married and ride off into happily-ever-after-ville? It means there’s no need to rush into marriage. Forever is a long time, so this is not a decision that you want to take or make lightly. Focus on your relationship with God. Establish yourself as a woman with a career, a life and a voice of her own before looking for “the one”. Lastly, always remember that a man can only complement you. He cannot complete you. If you’re not whole or if you’re unhappy with where you are in life, no man on earth will change that for you.
So take your time pretty girl. Wait for the one…not just anyone. There are billions of people in the world, but only ONE is meant for you. It’s going to take some time for your two paths to cross. But when they do….oh when they do, it will be magical and fantastical, just like you’ve always dreamed.