Sometimes it’s hard to step in and help when someone is being hurt. The fear that s(he) might get mad at you for trying to help may stop you from intervening on his/her behalf. However, getting help for a friend in need is not an act of betrayal.
It’s important to understand that when people harm themselves or allow others to harm them, it’s an indication that something is wrong spiritually and emotionally. THEY NEED HELP and God may be counting on YOU to help them!
Someone needs help if s(he) is:
- Abusing drugs/alcohol
- Engaging in promiscuous behavior
- Cutting him/herself
- Making suicide attempts or gestures
- Making suicidal threats (threats can lead to action)
- Is involved in an abusive relationship
- Is the victim of bullying
- Is involved in any behavior or situation that’s dangerous
People who hurt themselves or are allowing themselves to be hurt probably need more help than you can provide by yourself. Therefore, it’s important for you to seek help from a responsible adult IMMEDIATELY!
Responsible adults whom you can confide in include:
- Pastors and other church leaders
- Teachers/guidance counselors
- Adult family members
- Law enforcement or social services
- Any responsible adult whom you feel comfortable confiding in
Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)
God doesn’t want our temple to be mistreated! Telling a responsible adult that someone you know is hurting themselves isn’t “tattling” or betraying a friend. You’re actually helping that person get the help that s(he) needs. Although your friend may be upset with you at first, in the end s(he)’ll realize that you’re actually a good friend who cared enough to get them help. More importantly, God will be pleased, as The Bible says:
Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. (Philippians 2:4)