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    Why You Should Help a Friend in Need

    Sometimes it’s hard to step in and help when someone is being hurt. The fear that s(he) might get mad at you for trying to help may stop you from intervening on his/her behalf. However, getting help for a friend in need is not an act of betrayal.

    It’s important to understand that when people harm themselves or allow others to harm them, it’s an indication that something is wrong spiritually and emotionally. THEY NEED HELP and God may be counting on YOU to help them!

    Someone needs help if s(he) is:

    • Abusing drugs/alcohol
    • Engaging in promiscuous behavior
    • Cutting him/herself
    • Making suicide attempts or gestures
    • Making suicidal threats (threats can lead to action)
    • Is involved in an abusive relationship
    • Is the victim of bullying
    • Is involved in any behavior or situation that’s dangerous

    People who hurt themselves or are allowing themselves to be hurt probably need more help than you can provide by yourself. Therefore, it’s important for you to seek help from a responsible adult IMMEDIATELY!

    Responsible adults whom you can confide in include:

    • Parents
    • Pastors and other church leaders
    • Teachers/guidance counselors
    • Therapists
    • Adult family members
    • Neighbors
    • Law enforcement or social services
    • Any responsible adult whom you feel comfortable confiding in

    Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)

    God doesn’t want our temple to be mistreated! Telling a responsible adult that someone you know is hurting themselves isn’t “tattling” or betraying a friend. You’re actually helping that person get the help that s(he) needs. Although your friend may be upset with you at first, in the end s(he)’ll realize that you’re actually a good friend who cared enough to get them help. More importantly, God will be pleased, as The Bible says:

    Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. (Philippians 2:4)

    Have you ever had to help someone who was being hurt?

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    Aysha Ives
    Aysha Ives loves God with her whole heart and has a desire to help hurting people. With a Masters Degree in Psychology, she combines her education and experience with her love for God to help people live whole and fulfilled lives. Aysha is an Author, Mental Health Provider, Youth Church Teacher, and the mother of one gifted little boy whom she absolutely adores. Aysha is honored to be able to share her love of God with Project Inspired readers. Aysha is also the author of God Cares About Your Stuff: How To Believe For Tomorrow When Things Look Utterly, Completely, And Totally Impossible Today, released February 2013- Available at Amazon.

    26 COMMENTS

    1. one of my best friend’s boyfriend started drinking a few months ago. He’s gotten so bad that sometimes he cant remember what happened. She says she’s never been around him when he’s drunk but i worry about her. There isnt anything i can do for her but pray. I feel helpless. Someday she’s going to get hurt. But i cant breakup with him for her.

      ALWAYS HELP A FRIEND IN NEED. If they havent accepted christ, it is all the more important to help pick them up when they fall. You may be the only one to really show them Christ’s unconditional love. When someone is at their worst, they dont need someone to condemn & abandon them. They need you to reach out of your comfort zone and spend some time showing them what true love is.
      One of the worst mistakes I believe many Christian’s make is avoiding “bad influence” people. Christ told us all to go out into the world and spread his love. Dont conform to their ways, but be there to help them when the rest of the world has moved on. Christ’s love will work through you.

    2. I have a friend that used to cut herself but she stopped because my friend made her sigh a contract that she would never do it again she really did not want us to tell anyone that she was doing it but I still worry about her because she is negative and I know what ever reason she was cutting herself is still probley present

      • I have struggled with cutting and people always say to stop because it is destructive. Yet what they don’t seem to understand is the pain inside me is destroying me so much more then the few cuts on my body. If you have a friend who is struggling with cutting, don’t treat the cutting like the biggest problem, try and find out what her pain is, If you can show her the love and support she needs through her pain she will b less likely to cut, and you will b taking the weed out from the root instead of just ripping the top off. So it will truly be gone not just look like it is gone. Because as long as the roots are there the weed is still there.

        • this is so true, this advice is very helpful. Are you better now Rose? I am so sorry to hear this. So did God heal you?

        • Yes, and No. God has healed the action, and some of the pain in my life. Although a lot of the roots are still there.

    3. Please encourage your friend to get help, Patricia. You may even consider confiding in a trusted adult on her behalf. Sometimes people will move on to other destructive behavior if the underlying problem isn’t resolved. Continue to pray for her and ask The Holy Spirit to guide you toward the best way to handle the situation. You’re a great friend and I’m sure that whatever you do will be out of love for your friend.

    4. I had a friend who cut herself and it hurt me so badly because I love her so much that I felt helpless, and was even sometimes tempted to cut myself because I was so upset and sad because my friend was depressed. Then I told myself that the temptation came from the devil and God didn’t want me to and that if I cut myself, I would be in the same position as my friend and that doing it really wouldn’t help anyone. Praise the Lord, I never did it. As for my friend, she was still depressed and cutting the last time I saw her, but she moved a few weeks ago so all I can do is pray for her.

      • I would contact her parents and tell them how serious this cutting problem is. Tell her that it’s ruining her beautiful body, and get to the root of why you are depressed exactly. Ask her to see a psychiatrist because what she’s doing is a psychological disorder and can be fixed through therapy, and possible medication. Remind her of the long term affects of these scars too. And continue praying for her.

    5. My ‘friend’ does all of these. She doesnt eat, she cuts herself, she drinks beer, she has had sex more than 5 times, and shes 13! At first, I did not want anything to do with her after my 1st boyfriend asked her out while he was still dating me and she accepted. She sends dirty pictures to boys also. But, yesterday in church the sermen really touched me and I know that God wants me to help her. Thank you so much for this article.

    6. please pray for my friend, she is in the hospitol. She tried to hang out with the “popular girls” so she treated the rest of us like dung. Then, she realized the popular girls were only using her. She then had no friends because the popular girls were jerks and no one liked her because she was mean to everyone else. She tried to kill herself last week with sleeping pills but she didn’t die and had to get her stomache pumped. She is now in a special hospitol because she tried to kill herself. Please pray for her. She is a Christian, I think, because she goes to a christian school, but i do not know if she has given her life to Jesus, so please, please, pplease, pray for her!

    7. At the beginning of the year in my social studies class a new girl that sits by me gave me a poem about killing herself and then showed me where she cuts herself. Then she told me that in the summer she spent a month in the hospital because she tried to kill herself but it “didn’t work”. I was scared for her. Then she said that she hates it at my school and how her parents are split and how her older sister got pregnant and how her younger sister has ADHD. I knew she was at a hard time in her life. I told her that I was sorry for all that she was going through and that it would eventually get better. She said it never gets better and that she was going to try to kill herself again soon. I was so worried for her, and I ended up going to the counselor about it. She was mad that I told at first but now she is doing much better.

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