Why Your Virginity Doesn’t NEED to Be the Story
Written by Dave Herrmann | June 9, 2015
Recently, I was scrolling through my feeds and I came across an interesting article called “12 Celebrities That Saved Themselves Till Marriage.” I was intrigued by the title, so I clicked on it. As I skimmed through the 12 celebrities, I suddenly felt this sickening feeling. The article was only highlighting these individuals because of their celebrity status and the fact they saved themselves for their spouse.
Cool story, bro. But here’s the problem I have. I think it’s cool for people to save themselves for marriage. It’s biblical. But what annoys me is when we make virginity THE story. It shouldn’t be. We recently posted a GREAT article about not idolizing your virginity, and the same can be said about not letting your virginity become THE story. JESUS is the story.
The fact that I’ve chosen to wait for marriage isn’t anyone’s business except for God’s and my future spouse’s. That’s it. What I do or don’t do with my body is a personal thing that doesn’t need to be shared with anyone outside of that circle.
I totally understand why people write articles about how amazing it is to wait. It is amazing! But what about those who didn’t wait until marriage? What about those who feel deep regret for not living up to that? They’re probably processing a lot internally. Having to see article after article about how amazing it is to wait probably makes them feel inferior in their Christian walk.
Think about this: If you’re trying to share the Gospel with others, it’s probably best not to make someone else feel inferior, especially when it comes to virginity and “the wait.” Because at that point, they may not feel like they are welcome in the Kingdom. Kind of changes your perspective, doesn’t it?
The reality is that EVERYONE is welcome into the Kingdom, even those who gave up their virginity before marriage. It’s called grace, and God is all about that grace, ’bout that grace, no troubles. (Okay, sorry about that Meghan Trainor reference.)
Look, this is just my opinion on the matter. We as Christians need to rethink our motives when we share stories like this. It’s an important accomplishment to have waited, but it’s not THE most IMPORTANT accomplishment. We are not here to share THAT story. We are here to share THE story of Jesus. Though you can share it through THIS story, I’d much rather focus on things that are attainable to all. Not everyone waited, so let’s shift the focus to something else.