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Will All Of My Non-Christian Friendships End?

It may seem as though the closer you get to God, the more difficult it is to maintain friendships with non-believers. Friends may decide that you’re “too different” and may ultimately choose to end the friendship. The loss of a friendship can be quite disheartening, especially if you’ve been friends for a long time. This may leave you wondering if you have to give up all of your friendships with non-Christians.

When I first began drawing closer to God, I had similar experiences. Whenever I’d begin to speak of the goodness of God, eyes would roll and people would walk away. Many people struggled with my new Godly lifestyle and I lost some friendships as a result. It was very hard, but I learned several things from these experiences. I’d like to share a few tips that I picked up along my own journey:

  • Accept that some friendships will change. Some friends will be able to handle your Godly transition but others will struggle with it. Not everyone is prepared to live a holy lifestyle and your own zest for God may make them feel uncomfortable. To prevent themselves from experiencing any emotional discomfort, they may choose to distance themselves from you. This isn’t a negative reflection on you–in fact, it’s the opposite. It shows that you’re shining your light for The Lord!
  • Consider your own behavior. I had to learn that not everyone is at the same spiritual place as I am. Each person has his/her own spiritual race to run and it’s our job as believers to encourage them without being too critical. Sometimes friendships end because we’re unintentionally hurtful or offensive when others are engaging in behavior that we know isn’t Godly. We must learn how to witness with love so that friendships that can grow spiritually aren’t ended prematurely.
  • Don’t compromise your beliefs! Sometimes we want to maintain friendships so much that we allow ourselves to behave in ungodly ways. If your friends are frequently engaged in inappropriate behavior and you find yourself being negatively affected by them, then it may be best to put them on your prayer list and put some distance between you. I know it’s hard, but sometimes it’s best to love others from afar.
  • Make new friends. Try spending time engaged in activities that you enjoy where you’ll be around peers who share your beliefs. You’ll begin to build new friendships with people who are more like you. Of course, you can still talk to your old friends and definitely keep them in your prayers, but it’s important to surround yourself with people who share your spirituality.

Living for God in this physical realm sometimes can be painful, but this is what God tells us about our sacrifices:

And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or fields for my sake will receive a hundred times as much and will inherit eternal life (Matthew 19:29).

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by Jackie on December 20, 2011 at 11:47

    WOWWW!!!…THIS IS REALLY BEAUTIFUL…by reading this article…it has helped me alot…because this is exactly how i was feeling and i didnt really know how to cope with it,but just with prayer…im definently gonna keep this in mind..because sometimes…you really love your friends but in the long run..if you realize they dont change, your just gonna have to let them go…but this helped alot!! 🙂 Praise Jesus for you!! <3 <3

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by amazinchiik on December 19, 2011 at 18:32

    This article was very helpful I have friends who are nonbelievers one is a Buddhist and me and her clash ideas all the time. I’m glad I’m graduating next semester because I had that feeling that if I shined my light to bright I’d be sitting alone for lunch always. I know that’s a stupid and childish reason but I did find moments to witness to people. Well my real issue is my relationship with my friend, been friends for 14years, she’s turning away from God. I don’t know what to do. I really don’t want to break the relationship off because she’s a sister to me. I’d like to ask if someone will pray for that situation. Because whether I like to admit it or not she does influence me in some ways…

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by Paperclip on December 12, 2011 at 10:09

    I get this feeling. Recently I feel like I have been kind of drifting away from my non-Christian friends, partially because of my growing faith in God. I’ve changed a lot in the past year. The other reason is that I “abandoned” my friends for online school this year. They haven’t really put it that way, but I feel like they think I abandoned them. And again, this traces back to my beliefs. The high school I was attending was… not good for me, emotionally, spiritually, or mentally. As a Christian, I finally decided that I didn’t need to expose myself to what I was. And my friends don’t really understand. It’s tough sometimes. And my blog is “really religious” which makes it feel like my friends don’t support me in that area… Okay, that was another rant from Paperclip. Anyway, thanks a ton for this article!

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by luvJesusInHeavn on December 11, 2011 at 12:06

    Many of my friends are non-Christians, and I am a full blown Jesus freak. (;D) Sometimes I feel uncomfortable standing up for God, but I want to stand up for him! I don’t want to be afraid!

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by JennaBel on December 10, 2011 at 16:11

    My best friend is a non-believer, and I’ve been working really hard to try and have her learn more about God and the Christian religion so that maybe someday she will be a believer. No matter how much I care about her, I’m not about to let her compromise my beliefs, and thankfully, her actions don’t do that at all.

  6. Project Inspired

    Posted by Monica on December 9, 2011 at 17:10

    Yeah but what if it’s your parents who don’t want you to be closer to God. What do you do then? Run away? Advice please. 🙂

    • Posted by Nicole on December 9, 2011 at 23:50

      that’s terrible. Why would they not want that?? Keep praying in your mind and hear to God. They can’t prevent that! Read scriptures online, keep coming to project Inspired for Christian messages!

  7. Project Inspired

    Posted by 1_artist on December 8, 2011 at 14:31

    Very helpful article, I appreeciate it.