There are so many talented and rich people out there, but there’s no need to get jealous of them! Here are some reasons why:
You are who YOU are – and that’s great! I’m sure it would be cool to be like the popular girl, pop star or whoever you admire. But the thing is, that’s not who you are! If you were like them, then you wouldn’t be you! Just be yourself, whether you’re considered dorky, nerdy or weird. You won’t be happy pretending to be someone you’re not.
God has plans for you! I read somewhere that people usually want to be used in big ways but aren’t willing to be used in small ways. Let’s say (theoretically) that you’re jealous of Nicole. You want to lead something like Project Inspired or be a model. This may not be God’s plan for you (or maybe not until the future). That is God’s plan for Nicole. However, He also has a plan for YOU.
Nicole doesn’t want you to be jealous of fame and neither does God. Your plan may be doing the little things. How can God trust you with the big things if you’re unwilling to do the little things? God has a plan for everyone, and though this is a common phrase in the Christian society, just truly think about it. If God sees all sins as the same, perhaps He sees all good works as the same. Let God use you!
They’re not perfect, either. Celebrities have got it all, right? Well…is that why some are known for going to rehab? Why do they punch paparazzi in frustration? The thing is – nobody has a perfect life no matter how it looks on the outside. In fact, a study shows that the less you have, the happier you are. Christians aren’t supposed to focus on the worldly stuff. When you get to heaven, you don’t take earthly treasures with you. No one will ever have the perfect life, so enjoy the one you have.
Focus on what truly matters. When you look back at your life, what do you see? I can tell you personally from being the “smart kid” in school that awards or compliments don’t matter in the long run. It’s your relationships that do and spending time with your friends and family. God created humans to be social and have REAL friendships — not the shallow kind where people are ‘friends’ with you just because you’re popular or whatever. What really matters is what God thinks, and He thinks He created you wonderfully.
Jealousy only holds you back. Why do you wish you were someone else? You’re only wasting your own time and not focusing on what you have. It’s not the other person’s fault they’re who you think you want to be. In fact, (we had a sermon about this at church) when you’re jealous, you’re really saying you have a problem with God and what He gave you. Didn’t He give you more than enough and yet still continues to give? Let go of jealousy. Nothing good comes out of it. Ironically, the less you think about yourself, the happier you are. When you are always focusing on yourself, you will never be completely content. However, helping others is satisfying.
“I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” — Psalms 139:14
Here are some tips for dealing with jealousy:
Count your blessings. I’m sure you heard this before, but it really does help! Remember your situation could have been much worse and that God has already blessed you so much and continues to do so!
Joke about it. Joking about your situation lightens up the mood and makes you happier. It also gives the message that you don’t really care and you’ll eventually believe it yourself.
Pray about it. God wants to help you, so talk to Him about it and let Him guide you. Praying makes everything better!
Tell your friend about it. When you tell somebody about your jealousy problem, it makes it seem less big and important. A friend can be counted on to remind you of your true value!
Written by PI reader, Amataverna.